By Nicolette Audino
This week’s topic is beauty. I don’t mean being hot, physically well-proportioned or having an expensive wardrobe.
I mean real beauty, inner beauty— the kind that is in your heart, your mind and your soul.
I am talking about how kind you are, how much you care for other human beings, the good that you do, and the joy that you fill a room with.
Growing up, I was taught to treat people the way I would want to be treated.
This applied to everyone – no matter what you looked like, sounded like or acted like.
How do you want to be treated? Do you want to get talked about behind your back or made fun of when walking into Reamer or do you want someone to compliment you on your new outfit or your diving touchdown in the endzone?
What makes a person beautiful is their soul. Physical attributes only go so far.
Research shows that those who have a warm heart and a great personality have better friendships, relationships with family and a better chance at finding long-lasting love.
In 2006, a study was done in which three different photographs were observed. One was of a physically “attractive” male, one of an “average” looking male and one of an “unattractive” male.
These photos were paired with words that described these individual’s personalities such as independent, humorous, or bitter.
The conclusion of the study was that the average and unattractive were seen as the most attractive just because of the positive words and stellar traits associated with them.
I am by no means saying that “attractive” people are all mean and evil and “unattractive” people are always friendly and sweet.
Every human being is different and judgments should never be passed because of the way someone appears physically. The beauty that they possess is within the soul.
You cannot see a person’s soul when they walk into Reamer. You cannot get to know a person solely by looking at their clothes. You cannot judge someone’s character because they have lots of make up on.
You don’t have to have certain faiths or beliefs or even values to have a beautiful soul – but you should stay true to YOUR faith and YOUR beliefs and YOUR values.
Doing the right thing can often times be the hardest thing to do.
It is easy to give in to talking about that girl who looks different than everyone else walking into Upper just because everyone else is. That is the easy way out.
However, having true character and a good heart is not participating in that talk and easing your way out of it. It doesn’t mean you have to ditch those friends, it just means you chose not to be a part of a cruel conversation.
When you look for a friend or a partner, don’t you look at someone’s character?
Of course we all have our types and the guys and girls that we think are drop-dead gorgeous.
You might even find out that they have both looks and character.
But what if they don’t? Don’t you want loyalty, honesty and TRUE friendship more than good looks?
Wouldn’t you rather spend your day with someone who wouldn’t hurt your feelings for anything in the world?
What’s inside your heart, the way you treat people, the respect you give others, deciding not to make judgments, caring about people, doing the right thing even when it is difficult, being kind—these are all BEAUTIFUL things. If you live your life doing the best you can at all of those things, that is BEAUTY.