HOW TO: Ignore the negatives and remain positive


By Nicolette Audino

There have been moments of hurting in everyone’s lives. You have been criticized, run down or just lost faith for a brief moment. Whether it be because you were broken up with by a boyfriend or girlfriend, got a low grade on a test, were hurt by a friend, lost an important athletic contest, were made fun of because of the way you look or someone doesn’t approve of something you do, everyone has had a flash of distress and morose.

The most important thing to do when you feel mournful and melancholy, which also happens to be the hardest thing to do, is to keep the faith—stay positive, hold your head up and rise above it all. Life goes in cycles. One day you can wake up and your life could be a disaster. You can feel so low that you don’t know how you are going to get through the rest of the week. The next day, you could wake up and your life may be completely turned around. You could meet the person of your dreams, get a job that you wanted, or spend an amazing day with family and friends. Sometimes, when you are feeling like there is so much negative in your life, there is a good chance that there is a positive waiting for you just around the corner. Keep a good attitude, know that your turn will come, and if you work hard enough, you will get exactly what you want out of life. No one escapes the negatives, but, through them all, there is a way to remain positive:

1. Those who try to hurt you are not worth your time.Anyone who tries to bring you down with words or intentionally goes out of their way to hurt your feelings is not the kind of person you need in your life. Surround yourself with those who you love and who love you back because you do not need people who do not need you.

2. Remember all the positives in your life.No matter how low you get, there is always something good. If you are not finding happiness in a certain aspect of your life, focus on the good parts. If you broke up with a significant other, but you are doing well in your history course, focus on that. If you lost the national championship game but have a great family, focus on that. Through all the little negatives, there are always big positives.

3. Make a list or make a playlist.Make a list of the positives and negatives in your life. Decide that moment that you will ignore the negatives and focus on the positives. Read the positive side every morning when you wake up. Also, sometimes it helps to put together a motivational playlist. Put together songs you like that pump you up or make you smile.

4. Look toward your future.If the present is not making you happy, luckily, you have a future to look forward to. Plan out the next steps in your life. Sign up to go on a mini term, or possibly plan to get involved with a club. Know that your future can be extremely bright.

5. Talk to the person who will give you the best advice.For me, it’s my mom and dad. For you, it could be your roommate or your boyfriend or a coach. Go to someone who you trust to not only give it to you straight, but will also always be able to comfort you.

6. It is okay to cry or vent.If you feel like you need to cry, vent or yell, do not see it as a moment of weakness. If something has hurt you, it is okay to do all of these things. Get it out of your system and move forward.

7. But never feel sorry for yourself.Do not dwell on what has happened. The more you dwell and feel bad for yourself, the more you will convince yourself that the problem is bigger than it is and will just make you fall into a deeper rut.

8. Prove them wrong.If someone or something has told you that you are wrong, or that they don’t like you anymore or your grade doesn’t match your effort, prove them wrong…no matter how long it may take. Show the world just how wonderful and terrific you are in your unique way. Take the bull by the horns and see who has the last laugh.

9. Hold your head up high.Remember, you are great. You are unique. You are special. You are smart. You are beautiful. You are fabulous. Hold your head up and believe in yourself.

10. Remember, being you is the best thing you could ever be. Sometimes, being different and unique can get you criticized, but whoever you are reading this, just know— being you is exactly who you were meant to be and you should be proud to be you. Embrace what you love, what you have and what you want, but most of all, embrace yourself.


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