Last weeks’s article “Women possess freedom to be unfeminist” gave a mistaken picture of what feminism is and what its goals are.
While you should not feel pressured into promoting feminism, you should feel that it is your duty as a woman to promote feminism. Do you not believe in the equal treatment of men and women? By choosing to be an “anti-feminist” this is what you are endorsing. You are endorsing the victimization of women. You are endorsing the unequal privileging of men to women.
Admitting that you “(are) not actively advocating for the perfect balance between the genders,” indicates that you do not think that women and men should be equal. Speaking woman to woman, how can you say that? Do you honestly value yourself less than a man?
Women are people, just as men are people, and feminism advocates for the equal treatment of people — that is, women as people. I struggle to see the validity in your statement, as it says you do not see women as equal to men, which is undermining all of the progress, as you stated, that has been made since the 1960s.
Your statement, “Personally, I do not feel much discrimination and therefore, do not harbor disapproving feelings towards men and their supposed unwavering patriarchal power,” is the perfect example of ignorance.
Just because you personally do not think you experience sexism or misogyny on a daily basis does not mean that it does not exist, that it is not a prevalent problem in our society and that you should not promote change.
I think that you are so used to slights, everyday remarks such as catcalling, and demeaning jokes that you do not recognize the discrimination that is happening to you everyday.
Even if you could make the impossible argument that you have never heard or been the butt of any of these insulting, sexist jokes, it does not justify turning a blind eye to the plight of other women around the world. Your statement indicates your blindness and your unwillingness to support women’s equality.
Additionally, your statement, “I agree that efforts still need to be made in the areas of equal pay for example, but the discrimination is minor to me and not something to force down the throats of women that aren’t necessarily ‘feminist,’ ” is just plain appalling. This statement is a slap in the face to the massive amount of hard work put in over the decades by women who gave other women the privilege to be able to reach out and possibly touch equality between men and women.
According to the U.S. Census Bureau, in 2014, women earned, on average, $0.79 to every $1 earned by men, which in my opinion is not a “minor” discrimination. Similarly, according to mic.com “a new study shows the wage gap effects women in all industries at every level,” so the privilege that you have access to now will only sustain you until you get a job.
By stating that you are “not actively advocating for the perfect balance between the genders,” you are just riding on the coat tails of other women’s hard work to give you equal rights. You take for granted how things have drastically taken a turn from the past — women used to be objects or things to men — and with that you lose the appreciation for all the work that has been done, making you believe that you can be “anti-feminist.”
The statement, “While I agree with the feminist movement in the effort to create an equal world, I refuse to play the role of the discriminated victim,” is not only playing to the feminist stereotype of a woman who hates men, but is also grossly misinformed.
The feminist movement promotes the equal treatment of men and women, and therefore does not, in any way, encourage the hatred of men. According to your stereotype, feminism would also encourage women to play the role of the discriminated victim. It is certainly notable that you acknowledge the fact that gender equality is a job for the men of the world as well, but your statement on women playing the discriminated victim undermines that notion.
A feminist is not a discriminated victim; rather, a feminist is a person who believes in the equal treatment of men and women, regardless of the situation.